Charles Darwin wrote:
As much as people like to troll and blow things out of proportions on this website, there is underlying truth behind the insanity. It may not be written in stone and is not as black and white as most sluthaters make out to be but we are here because we share some of the commonalities perpetuated by our brand of theories. A brand of theories that the "normal" society refuses to accept because it is the most difficult pill to swallow.
I think most people underestimate how much millimeters on your face and inches on your body will affect your social development. If you were ugly and short throughout your childhood and adolescence, people will treat you with disrespect. The difference between attractive people and unattractive people are literally night and day because attractive people or more specifically beautiful children and teens receive more external validation and through this positive feedback loop, they are able to become more extroverted and confident in their pursuit of their career goals and the opposite sex. Conversely, unattractive children and teens would have been routinely bullied throughout their childhood. Contrary to the media, this bullying takes the form of silent bullying or verbal bullying. Peers, teachers, parents, and siblings will routinely tell you should not pursue this career goal and aim for easier and less difficult alternatives. People around you will tell that you are unattractive. They will say that you have bad teeth, bad skin, ugly face, short.....imagine how "confident" you will feel when people drill these words inside your head.
When you reach the age of maturity, people in fact actually cares less about physical appearance and more about your social skills and technical skills. Specifically, it is about what you can bring to the table and your value is measured about what you can provide to the society and market. It is all about who you know ("networking") rather than what you know. However, our experiences in childhood and adolescence will continue to haunt us as we have not been socially conditioned to the rigors of society. We will have little or no friends, and as a result, we will have a small social network to connect to important job opportunities or meet the opposite sex through our social circle. We would always seem "out of place" and do not know how to socialize with people because we have missed the social milestones or social developmental benchmarks while we were young. The longer we wait and take to make friends or lose our virginity, the more we are seen out of place and thus stigmatize even further as if we have some psychological disease or that we are antisocial. We are not.
It is a catch 22. Many people on these forums with the exceptions of a few are in fact perfectly normal. Some may have questionable fetishes [eg. mrz], but most people here are normal individuals except for the fact that we have missed important developmental milestones, and thus, we are in perpetual depression, remain an incel, or socially isolated. Heck, you may even outgrown your unattractiveness and become aesthetic [eg. zyzz], but there will always be something off about you.
After I came back from Czech Republic, I made several minor changes to my appearance. I finally wore contacts and changed my haircut. People treated me with more respect. I occasionally catch girls taking a double glance at me. Some relatives that know me will tell me that, "my god, you look so different and wow your skin is so beautiful and you have a good nose."" That is when I realize how superficial society is. I was the same person that went and left Czech Republic. Nothing about me changed except for the fact that I look better.
At the end of the day, most of us haven't done anything wrong. We are not criminals or delinquents. Some of us are highly educated and if people were to talk to us, we would appear completely normal. We have committed no crimes except for the fact that we are a few inches away and few millimeters away from being considered as a human. Nothing more and nothing less. The society is responsible, and not us, that are architects of our destruction. Remember that buddy boyos the next time you consider visiting lachowski or go eee aaah.