I ran it thru google translate:
I have a small problem that I do not really know how I'll manage.
Since a few months back so met a new girl and we click very well and feel comfortable with each other. She is a little what you might call a "prude and innocent" girl outwards and the only thing that is not hundred of our relationship is sex.
Early on, she made clear to me that oral sex is not something you have if you had not been together for a while - but preferably no she does at all. In addition, she would like it to be extinguished in the room during the act. I personally think this is pretty boring compared to previous conditions and have told her that I would like more. This resulted in principle that she gave me oral few times quickly before the file, and then argue that it is not something she likes and would rather not do. I got to take the rough with the smooth and accept it and has therefore not been nagging at her after this.
Now for the big problem.
I stayed with her for the weekend and Friday night when she showered, I saw that her Facebook chat was open on the computer. Stupid as I was, I read a bit and saw that she chatted a lot with a guy last fall. Really regret that I did this ...
What I could read during the short time that the two had some type of relationship in the autumn but which is now completed. I buy without saying that my girl is not a virgin, but the way they wrote about sex really gets it hurt the heart, given how our sex life looks now.
She writes quite figuratively about their previous sex meeting in chat with him and that includes details about how she wants him to "take her in every hole." If I talk dirty with her, she becomes touchy and wonder if I only want her for sex. When he simultaneously writes that he does not jerk off before the next meeting so that he "can fill her mouth properly" so she giggles only. I know quite clear that they have made the whole hog a lot more than she wants to do with me.
So Flashback, how do I handle this situation?
Both me the girl and the other guy is between 25-30. The guy and I'm probably even looking objectively, however, he is very muscular and tatooed (typical gym goer). I am a young careerist with high ambitions, which he probably is not.
I am after reading the conversation afraid my girlfriend wants me for the safe and sustainable boyfriend while she may seek excitement elsewhere.
PS. Of course it was wrong to snoop in her FB, need not be discussed. In a way, I have myself to blame, but the difference in her behavior is a fact.