Face=pie wrote:Answer me this please- if the ugliest girl you know without any major deformities came asking to be with you physically how would you respond? Keep in mind that she possesses character attributes that you respect deeply and shares a 90% common interest rate with you. She also is insanely funny and very intelligent but once again, she looks quite deplorable. Describe to me your initial thoughts, instincts and feelings.
I see where you're getting at with this example, but keep in mind several things here:
1. Men are inherently more superficial than women are - sort of. Some men will overcome their physical repulsion for a female if they are horny/desperate enough, but for the most part, they will not engage in an actual relationship with a female they find repulsive unless they have no other options. Women are superficial too, but they are far more likely to look past looks in the presence of other redeeming features: money, fame, success, significant enough personality sync, etc. There are many ugly but successful males with attractive women, there are very few ugly but successful women with attractive men.
2. Improving yourself doesn't mean you'll now have access to any and every female, but it does make your chances with females much higher - and that will include some you actually want. In this hypothetical situation of yours, I'm not sure if I'd be willing to be with this female - but I would be FAR more likely to be with her physically if she had an amazing body, amazing personality, common interests, skills, and an occupation I valued and respected than if she was just ugly and none of those other things. The nature of my interactions with this person would also change from wanting to be around them and enjoying their company to being actively repulsed by them.
3. This shouldn't just be about the opposite sex for you - arguably it shouldn't be about the opposite sex at all - you should want to improve yourself for yourself
. So you can have a more enjoyable life overall, not just to arbitrarily increase your chances of putting your penis in a female. Even in the complete absence of female attention, a life where you have money to purchase the things you want, friends you enjoy your time with, hobbies and skills you enjoy practicing, the respect of your peers etc. is always going to be far more fulfilling than one where you sit around and complain.