OK cool, so logically explain to me why we have no free will? You can't, because if that could be explained with logic there would be no discussion or grey area.
So, what I'm saying is that, people who are better in life and generally happy when presented with a dilemma like this one, on which logic doesn't present a clear cut answer, they will tend to pick the one that aligns with their view of themselves and their life. They like themselves, they take pride in their accomplishemnts and in what they have become. It wasn't fate, we don't live in a deterministic world. I made this happen.
On the other hand, incels, depressed and unhappy people, naturally develop coping mechanisms, and they prefer to believe they never had any chance and take comfort in that.
Ok, you dont get it.
Let's give you an example, a thought experiment:
There are two 18 year old girls, who look the same, have kinda the same environment, live in the same country, and so on.
Girl A) On her 18 birthday, she gets gangraped by a group of violent guys, and nearly dies in the process
Girl B) On her 18 birhtday, she wins 100 million € in the lottery.
Now. Almost everyone will agree with me, that girl A & B will develop a very different personality, because of the life events that happened to them. Because, our will IS NOT FREE.
if it were free, they could decide every point, free of restrictions, how they want to be and how they want to think. that would be freedom of the will. but this is not what we observe.
Also free wil contradicts with almost all other hard sciences, which are based on "causality". There is cause and effect. Having free will would contradict this. If you dont understand, you are just too dumb.