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How it all starts
Posted on December 5, 2010 by omegaloser
So you are 30 or 40 something and “happily married”. This means you have spent the last 5 or 10 years solving material problems, rushing around, earning money…you have been a maternal auxiliary in a business whose purpose is to produce the highest quality (by common bourgeois standards) offspring and to accumulate as many resources as possible (which is never enough).
You need to beg more and more in order to get sex and each time there is less action and your wife is less involved. Sex is the activity with the lowest priority and she designs your life so as to make it impractical most of the time.
One day you realize it is virtually impossible to have sex, or you are fed up with begging or with dealing with an inert body eagerly waiting for the whole thing to end as soon as possible.
After a few months of complete celibacy you realize that you are becoming crazy. You lose interest and motivation in all things and lying along your wife in the bed at nights without any contact enrages you.
Your guilt eventually disappears and you decide to do something about it.
You have a physical need and your marriage does not fulfil this need. You list the options:
2. Virtual sex/pornography
3. Strip clubs
6. Affairs, mistresses, etc.
7. Divorcing and finiding another “soulmate”.
As a low status male I am pretty clumsy at options 6 and 7 (and more fundamentally, I do not want them). So I have experienced the other options, starting from the bottom. This blog tells the story of my journey through these solutions (mostly option 4)