I spent 15+ years in the PUA community, yet never improved. I was always great with conversation, rapport, "building comfort", etc. But could never "close" with anyone who wasn't butt ugly herself. Constant flaking, "shit testing", etc. So much time and effort for pathetic results. Nobody could accuse me of giving up easily. I stuck with it for over 15 years, constantly studying, constantly going out and applying those concepts, constantly meeting with other PUAs in the area and getting feedback, then trying to fix those sticking points. Yet, failure at every turn. After 15 years of this shit, I was forced to question what I believed. I came to the conclusion that both society and the PUA community were wrong - looks DO matter, and it's the one thing that'll make or break you. So, I quit PUA and went full monk mode for 3 years. I put the same time/effort and dedication towards looksmaxing that I previously put into PUA. I lost over 100 pounds, took up bodybuilding, got the teeth fixed, got tanned, acne treated, contact lenses, etc.
Holy. Fucking. Shit! It was like walking into an alternate universe. Contrary to what I was taught for 15 years, if a woman wants you, she WILL make it obvious. She WON'T flake. You WON'T have to "work" for her attention. Interaction is actually FUN, not a battle you have to fight where she tests you at every turn. You're no longer under constant threat of getting dumped if every little fucking thing isn't perfect. It wasn't long before so-called "9's" were "day gaming" ME.
Game helps, but honestly, it's VASTLY overrated in its effectiveness. You'll see far more improvement in your dating life by lifting, dressing better, skin care, maybe some dental work, and in extreme cases, plastic surgery. The PUAs really pushed the idea that game was more important than looks, that looks "didn't matter", etc. That's bullshit!
I can walk into any club nowadays, act like a beta dork, and still bring home a hottie despite intentionally fucking things up. Yes, I actually did that experiment multiple times, but did NOT expect those results. I was doing everything the PUAs say NOT to do, being WEAK, NEEDY, etc., and I STILL managed to get laid twice that week, with GOOD LOOKING women! That experience alone was the final straw that killed my faith in PUA.
A lot of women are with assholes, but being an asshole isn't what makes him attractive. That's a case of confusing correlation with causation. It all got started when men noticed how women say they want a "nice" guy, but get with assholes instead. Many women are willing to tolerate a terrible personality just because he's either good looking or has some kind of carrot on a stick (rich, social status, DRUGS, etc). The PUA and mistakenly assumes it's his shitty attitude that attracted the woman, when the reality is far different. She's either attracted to his looks, or she's basically turning a trick for some hidden benefit.
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